I have always thought that people should wait for the “right person” to start a relationship with. This thought comes with two ends – how can you possibly know if he/she is the one if you haven’t been together? This is the one way of thinking, but I like to think that you just know. You see it in his eyes, in his behaviour and in his dreams – you’ve got to admit, your dreams must match. It’s never going to work out if you can’t even find solutions to things that even don’t exist yet.

The hardest things in life are break-ups. Though I haven’t exactly experienced one, I know the feeling when it starts to come into mind. Like this is the final solution to be happy. How this perfect man, the perfect partner in life suddenly turned against you? How is it possible that someone who was so madly deeply in love with you does something stupid and just wrecks it all? And how is it possible that all his little features and habits you loved, are now getting on your nerves so badly?

I think, everything is fixable. I believe that if you have once felt that he IS the one for you, he most certainly is. It is only the matter of working things out, talking things through and fixing your problems. It is natural that if you have been on your own the whole time and suddenly move in with someone – it raises problems without question. Now it is only up to you if you let these problems and fights ruin everything or you just look past them and grow togehter, accepting each other habits. You can not change another person. It’s all about finding ways to make both of you happy.

I have a friend, who broke up with her boyfriend quite a time ago by now. I’m not gonna mention their names, as it would  not be polite, but the girl was a wreck. They had their arguments about tiny little things. They were both stubborn and never let go of their side of the story, although I assure you, these things were way too little to brake up upon. Until she made a mistake. She cheated on him and that was it. He broke up with her and never wanted to talk to her again. She admitted that she did it only because he”pushed her into it” with his words and that she regrets it deeply. She cryed for days, for weeks. She begged him to take her back, but he remained cold. Well, to be honest, can’t blaim. He said his opinion of her changed and he could never ever be together with someone who he can’t trust when having bad times.

It was really hard to see all this, because I have never imagined that this  kind of big love they had, could ever turn out like that.

She looked for ways to get him back, she bought self help books etc and then.. she stumbled on a web page that was about texting ex back. She was desperate, she had understood how big mistake she had made. She knew he was the one and she thought she would die, if they weren’t going to be together anymore. She sweared she would do everything differently if she could only get him back. You can not imagine how much tears I had to dry on her cheeks and how worried she made me.
Anyhow, then she discovered that web page and in her last despair, she got herself an e-book that was about sending text messages to get her ex back. It sounded unbelievable, I told her she was crazy to even try something like that, but listen to this – SHE GOT HER EX BACK!!!!! I was astonished. Literally. This e-book is created by a man and that’s what it’s all about – a man knows how ex-boyfriends’ mind would work (I believe he sayed something about being broke up via e-mail) and now they are back together! And it seems that they are happier than ever. I am so glad that I didn’t try to stop her, because I love how happy she is now.

I believe that everything IS fixable, more than ever now. And if you feel that you were so stupid to let go of the right person to spend your life with – get him/her back! It’s not gonna be much fun for the rest of 50 years if you have this sadness and pain of losing your love of life inside you all the time. Her story made me relise, how important my boyfriend is for me and that I would  never do anything to hurt him.

If you want to check out this texting thing , click here, maybe it helps you as much as it helped my friend:)

Here it comes:

I am an ordinary girl who lives with a life partner. A little while ago I was shocked by him – he admitted that he has cheated on me. With his ex-wife.

He admitted that when he went to babysit their kid to her home, he stayed over night due to a bad weather and that’s how it went. I cried, I was so upset, how could he do this to me?? He thinks, he’s not that guilty after all..

 It reminded me of how we started going out two years ago. He was married back then, but he told me that they still live together in the same house, but they don’t sleep together anymore. After that he moved to my place and divorced his wife. I didn’t know back then that at some point he had two women – me and his ex.

I was disgusted by his behaviour. Ex-wife shouldn’t have this kind of power over him, why did she let him stay overnight like that? Why she plays such a poor sufferer now, she and the child got their house and car, she’s not that innocent! How did they make up like that?

I demanded an honest answer from the guy that it never happens again. He apologized, but didn’t promise anything. I asked him directly if he’s still sleeping with the ex.. he sai I DON’T KNOW!!! Who knows then?? Can you imagine my despair and sadness? They are divorced for god’s sake, divorced for a reason and now..

I just had to tell it to someone. I am so embarrassed in front of my friends and family. I don’t even want to tell how stupid I was to even start dating with this guy..

Emily

I was literally half-dead, as it was the greatest challenge to go to the bathroom or to eat a little pudding-cup. What my dear Chris did was amazing. On the first day of my sickness, he went to a supermarket and got everything he thought I might need. Such as different juices, pudding-cups and everything little, yet very nutritional. He made me tea many times a day and if I wasn’t strong enough to sit up, he brough a straw so that I could drink it. He watched over me when I was asleep and he covered me with blankets when I was cold. He helped me up from the bed when needed and he hugged when I was so exhausted from the sickness. 

He didn’t complain even once. He just took care of me, bought my favourite food items to make me smile and to get any food in me. He always kept my glass of water and juice full and reminded me to drink them, cause you need to get lots of fluids in you when sick. 

I just wanted to say how great boyfriend he is and I wouldn’t have got better that soon if he wasn’t here. That is LOVE. For better, for worse! 

Then I gave him my little present – a box of his favourite chocolate and a card. I wrote the words from my heart. We kind of had a tradition to write letters on special occasions such as anniversaries or for example Valentine’s Day, but unfortunately this year we didn’t. I guess we have been together a lot and neither of us have had enough time to think about the letter and write something beautiful. Need to change it for the next year!

After breakfast we had some work to do, but later on we went for a walk. We had a great time, we dreamed of the future, talked about the past – it was fun and we both got a bit nostalgic. After the walk we went home and started making dinner. It has always been fun to cook something together so this time we made sushi as it is our favourite food. For dessert we baked an amazing chocolate cake with ice-cream and heart-shaped decorations. We created really romantic environment – candles and my roses on the table, wine.. Perfect:) In the evening we watched played board games a little bit and then watched a movie.  It was truly a perfect night and we both fell asleep with smiles on faces.

I feel whole with him. He is my life and he always will be. I hope we never forget how to make each other happy and that we can always bring smile to our partners face.

How was your Valentine’s Day?(:

Such a cute picture. Wonder what book is that.. 

And last time I saw him, he was a bit more serious than usual. I did not ask anything, thought that he knows I’m his friend – he can always come to me. But I noticed something.. he didn’t wear his wedding ring anymore..
I was really surprised, but I didn’t ask anything.

I don’t know exactly when it went wrong, but about half a year ago we had to spend a week away from our families with a group of people.. and they were talking via mobile phone every day, multiple times a day.. he showed everyone his WIFE, wedding pictures, baby..

And now..It’s just sad, so sad!  What about the little innocent child they gave life to.. I hope that everything is still going to be okay!!

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