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“Have you ever thought why in otherwise happily married couples wont have sex as often they used to? Also some tips to improve it!
10. Getting used to it.
20% of married couples have sex less than 10 times A YEAR and when they got used to this rhythm it’s hard to change it (warning from a sexologist Carol Queen). If sex and erotics is missing from the relationship, it’s hard to get it back because of various reasons. Of course there are couples who are very happy with their sex-life, but there are also couples who would like better one but they just don’t get there.
9.”Men problems”
52% men aged over 40 have difficulties with getting an erection and holding it up. Instead of using Viagra, men should exercise, eat healthy food, keep away from alcohol and cigarets and also ask their doctors if any of the medications may have an impact to their “mini me”.
Also a lot of men don’t understand that they may need more direct and physical stimulation
8. Menopause
More than 60% of women start divorce on their menopause years when their libido is lower than usual. This change is compatible with puberty, even worse because of raging hormones. Women are unhappy, because their bodies are changing, men are unhappy because women gain weight and so on. In addition to that, middle-aged women are sometimes more stressed and they don’t exercise – it takes down appetite for sex (also smoking, some medications and fried foods).
7. Changing Looks
43% of married couples admit that their husband/wife is not attractive to them anymore. “Letting yourself go” usually means gaining weight and returning to unhealthy lifestyle, says family therapist Wendy Strgar. Health has a very big role in a relationship and it is especially important in sex-life.
6. Different desires
The main cause of problems is different desires in bed. When one partner is into one certain pose, wants to “do it” every morning in the bathroom, but the other one doesn’t like it, sex-life goes down the drain. Different desires may cause too much pressure, making accusations, unhappiness and other negative emotions. When they start to dominate in the relationship, then it’s bad.
5. Unfaithfulness
Unfaithfulness brakes your relationship and makes intimacy go away. “In an open relationship where partners agree that intimacy with other people is okay, sex at home is many times better,” says sex expert David Steinberg. Though sleeping with another person behind your partners back – end of the relationship AND sex.
4. Children
30% of women doesn’t feel like jumping to bed with their child’s father for the first few years after the baby is born. Sometimes it’s because of the hormones, sometimes young moms are just stressed out. Very few couples can hold their intimacy on the same level as before the baby was born.
3. Pregnancy
Women’s sex appetite goes down to 39% when they’re pregnant. Queen explains: “There are very important changes in the role of a man and a woman during the pregnancy. Women’s body is changing and it takes time to get used to it – for both of them.” Some men are not very excited about their wife’s big belly and hormonal changes in women’s body may even lose their sex appetite. Young couples may not understand these changes and the result is quarrels between them.
2. Boredom
In a poll of a magazine Woman’s Day two-thirds of women admitted that their marriage is boring and only one-third said that their marriage is still exciting and sparkling. “Relationship stays exciting when partners still have their identity instead of completely dedicating to their partner and relationship,” says Strgar. And when a relationship is boring – no sex.
1. Lack of time
80% of couples accuse lacking of time in their poor sex-life. ” If you don’t put sex first you should think why is it so?,” says Steinberg. You should organize your life so your work and stress won’t kill your relationship and sex-life.”
